Thoughts on the Latest PASS Fracas…

First, I want to tell you what this post is NOT about. It is not about the PASS BoD. It is not about Sri Sridharan. It’s not about my opinion of the decisions made by the PASS BoD in regards to the two open board positions. Okay, glad we got that out of the way.

Here’s what it is about. Community. Family. Even when we don’t agree with each other.

Let me tell you a story about myself… When I was 13, I played softball. My team took first place in our league, and that meant that we got to compete in the District Tournament. Now, our coach had the option to select 4 players from other teams in our league to supplement our team at the tournament. One of his selections was a first baseman. I was the first baseman for our team. I got benched. I was furious! I thought it was unfair that I lost my spot, when I helped our team win the league. I thought I should be on the field. I even went so far as to write a very strongly worded letter to my coach. (Yeah, I was THAT kid) I was complaining to my mom about the ordeal, and said that I didn’t like the girl who took my position.

Here’s what she said to me: “Honey, let me ask you something. What’s more important to you? That you’re the one on the field or that your team wins? She’s taller than you (important in a first baseman) and has a better bat. Are you going to blame her for your coach’s decision? You need to decide right now who you are. Are you the person who thinks of your team first or yourself first? I expect you to put the team first, and you had better be the loudest, most supportive person on that bench, and be ready to step up whenever you’re needed”.

My mom was never one to mince words. It was a hard lesson to learn as a kid, but a good one. Even though I disagreed with the coach, I stayed on the team. I cheered every play, and was ready to sub in as needed. Guess what? We won the District Tournament. I would have missed out had I quit.

What does this have to do with our latest PASS drama? Well, besides giving me an opportunity to tell you a story about myself, there is a point here. We’re a community, and a family. While we don’t always agree, and sometimes disagree vehemently, we’re still part of the same team.

And here’s my point. We might not all agree with the decisions made by our PASS BoD, but let’s cheer for our players. Let’s give Kendal van Dyke (Blog | Twitter) and James Rowland-Jones (Blog | Twitter) the best possible chance to be successful and effective as appointed board members. Will we hold them to a high standard? Of course. Don’t we always? Will we ask them to do a (mostly) thankless job for no pay? Yes. Will we tell them when we think they’ve made a bad decision? Yes, we’re pretty good at that. But, let’s give them a chance. They didn’t ask to be put in the middle of a controversy. They stepped up and accepted leadership roles within our community. That counts for something. Now, I don’t know James Rowland-Jones, so I can’t speak from experience about him.  But I can only assume that he cares about this community based on what he wrote here. I know Kendal personally, and I know that he’s a kind, hard-working person with honorable motivations.

Should we blindly follow the Board of Directors?  No, of course not.  Should we have an opportunity to vote on the by-laws?  Yes. Should we raise the red flag when we disagree?  Hell yes.  However, should we blame and publicly vilify two community volunteers who got stuck in the middle? Absolutely not.

Let’s all take a deep breath. I’ve done it, and here’s what I asked myself. If I were in Kendal or James’ shoes right now, what’s the one thing I would ask for? The answer I came up with is, “Give me a fair chance to show everyone that I can do right by the community”.

So that’s what I’m doing. Kendal and James – I’m cheering you on. I hope that you work hard and lead us well.

Wait… One more note before I go… Let’s be kind to each other.  The world is tough enough as it is without mean people in it. 

–Audrey

11 thoughts on “Thoughts on the Latest PASS Fracas…”

  1. Good post. Completely agree. I went in that same direction on a post I put up last night. I went into thoughts on the issue itself but the bottom line was the same as yours here – Let’s just get along, let the noise subside, take a deep breath and move forward. Great post, thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks, Mike. I took me a few days to get here, but I’m glad I did. I feel like I can move on and still continue to love the things I love about PASS, and forgive the things I don’t.

    1. Marlon,

      Thanks for reading the post, and I agree, it seems like there’s always something brewing. I think that’s the nature of any organization… There’s always going to be disagreement, different motivations, and different ideas about how to move the group forward. It’s why democracy is so terribly messy.

      –Audrey

    1. Thanks for reading the post, Colleen. I actually agree with you. I still think my coach made the wrong decision. “Dance with the one that brought you” and all that. Interesting thing though… While my Mom essentially told me to suck it up and be a good team player, she did run for (and win a seat on) the League Board the next season. And it just so happens that the by-laws changed. We went to a true All-Star Team system for our District tournament after that, with tryouts where all of the coaches voted on the team members. Funny, how it all worked out in the end.

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